Current mood:

thoughtful

Watching The Exodus
For the record, it sucks being the neutral party. You don't know who's side to take, especially when you know the pain and disregard paid from one side to the other and vice versa. You respect everyone and know it would be both cruel and unfair to ask them to stay, make a decision which clashes against their benefit.

And so you sit, watching the exodus happen....

This sideline is a fine one -- rivaling a knife's edge in sharpness, a cliff in fatality, and a black hole in potential dispersal into non-existence, or existence in a new form (who's to say?). Perhaps it is just human nature to grow up and grow apart, much the same as it is human nature to grow close to others and seek their companionship.

So, I don't believe it is the intention of anyone who decides to leave to break another's heart -- well, most people don't mean to, though there are those bastards that will do it intentionally.

But even as they do so, I must ask of all parties connected to ponder a single question: Did I do something directly to cause them to leave? Sometimes asking the question is far harder than finding the answer, and when this is the case you must consider what can be changed to prevent a new, and potentially more-devastating exodus from occurring.

For those people who can ask the question easily and find no answer, just let me be the first to say "It probably isn't you." As you grow, your relationships will change and toxic relationships -- as in the body -- will be expelled naturally. Don't try to keep it, move on as needed to take care of yourself.

To those people who have a difficult time asking both the question and finding the answer to said question...I can offer no viable solutions other than patience. Eventually you will be forced to sit down and consider the question and the answers, though it will hopefully be at a time of your choosing. If the time is not of your choosing, then perhaps you must reflect on whether or not there were signs that you should have considered earlier.

Once again, I am not a psychiatrist, nor am I a licensed physician; I am merely a person making observations on the aspects of daily life. I will not claim to be right or wrong, because I have made countless mistakes and will continue to do so for as long as I draw breath...but I hope to learn from every one of them. And I hope that others will do the same....